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Have you or your children been bullied? 5 Steps to help.

As a shy and socially awkward child with a spiritual vocabulary, I was severely bullied as a child. Name-calling was part of my life since childhood and into adolescence. So when I was cyber-bullied following my Christian conversion in 2017, I shrugged it off as “part of life.” I prayed to forgive those who were bashing me, and spreading vicious false rumors.

Yet there’s a difference between forgiving and being passive about abuse. And make no mistake: cyber-bullying is a deadly and vicious form of abuse. In January 2018, two 12 year olds in Panama, Florida were legally charged with cyberbullying a schoolmate who committed suicide as a result of the shame their bullying created. And her story unfortunately is common these days as cyberbullies harass their victims with name-calling, defamation, and cruel social media posts and texts.

According to the Journal of Medical Association Pediatrics 2014 journal, bullying is associated with statistically higher rates of suicidal ideation and suicide attempts. Suicides are the second ranking cause of deaths of teenagers and young adults.

We can’t passively stand by and let ourselves and our children be bullied anymore. Lives are at stake. A 2015 survey by the Megan Meier Foundation (created in honor of Megan who committed suicide after being cyberbullied) found that 34% of students have suffered from cyberbullying, especially among girls. The statistic is almost double for overweight adolescents being cyberbullied about their weight.

Those who are cyberbullied are also more likely to be bullied in person. Studies have found that cyberbullying has negative effects on victims, such as lowering self-esteem, increasing depression, and producing feelings of powerlessness.

Children and adults are committing suicide because some people are aggressively attacking them online. The sad news is how many lives bullying and cyber-bullying has ruined. The good news is that these tragedies have led to cyberbullying laws to protect us!

5 Steps to Conquer Bullying and Cyberbullying:

  1. Talk to your children. If they are being bullied, they may show signs of depression, aggression, isolating, and hopelessness. Have a talk with your children about bullying, even if you have to dig deeper to get them to admit this is happening.
  2. Get involved! Talk to your school principal and counselor, and insist that action be taken.
  3. Get mental health help! If you or your child are depressed, get help from a licensed mental health worker. Depression can be a fatal disease, leading to suicide and giving up on life.
  4. Get legal help! Cyberbullying is illegal, and there are many lawyers who will take your case on contingency (meaning that the bully will pay for the legal costs). You can google “online reputation lawyers” and “cyberbullying attorneys” and find them worldwide. Defamation, slander, and libel are illegal.
  5. Speak up! If you see someone cyberbullying online, report their post and demand that it be taken down. Tell the cyberbully to knock it off, and block them.

Let’s get involved and save lives! Pray for guidance as to the action that God wants you to take. We are taught by Jesus’s example to speak up when someone is behaving in harmful ways. The U.S. Health & Human Services says that when bystanders intervene, bullying stops within 10 seconds 57% of the time.

Having lived through bullying my whole life, I’m taking a stand! I prayed for God to give me the strength to speak up and take action, and he gave me this strength! I’ve now taken legal steps against those who have been cyberbullying me, and I’m going to continue spreading awareness about bullying through blog posts such as this one. When we put our foot down to bullying, speak up, and punish the bullies legally, we take back our right to live peacefully.

By DoreenVirtue.com

16 thoughts on “Have you or your children been bullied? 5 Steps to help.

  1. Love this platform Doreen. So much great information shared.. Thank you!! I’m going to pass this along to some parents that I feel will benefit from this. You are best. God Bless.

    ~A long time follower of you
    Keisha

  2. I am so sorry to hear that you have and are going through bullying. Thank you for all your knowledge and support. You truly are an amazing , beautiful soul!!!!

  3. Thank you for your voice Doreen. I have 2 teenage daughters, both of whom have been and 1 is currently being bullied. I am constantly talking to them and trying to give them the coping skills necessary to deal with their bullies and realize thier self worth. I am also their biggest advocate and I as their parent have been doing everything I can to help put an end to what they are having to go through. Hearing your story helps us to realize that we are not alone. Thank you.

  4. Do you have any advice on how to heal from being bullied as a child? I am still affected from being bullied from the age of 6 until I was 16 year old and i have a lot of scars from this trauma in my life. Any suggestion on a book or prays that I could use to heal?
    Thank you for all your love you put out here in this world

  5. Thank you, Doreen, for these messages. I am so sorry that you have been bullied, even at this age of life! Although I was shocked when you converted, but I adore your courage to be true to yourself! Since your conversion, I continue to follow you on social media. I do pray more and start visiting churches. Thank you for being you.

  6. Thank you so much for this Doreen. I’m sorry this happened to you. My son is going through bullying at school and I just happened to stumble on your post. GOD IS TRULY AMAZING!!!

  7. I can really relate to this article because I was a victim of bullying when I was growing up in the 1970’s & 1980’s. I had to be put in special education classes from 8th grade to the 12th grade and have it on my academic record as mentally disturbed all due to bullying. I barely graduated high school. My first suicide attempt was at the age of 13 due to bullying. It is not just Depression I suffer from it, I suffer a stronger form of Depression called Manic Depressive Disorder. To this day, I have not recovered.

  8. Dear Doreen,

    I am sorry to hear about the bullying you experienced and I completely agree with what you wrote.
    May all our positive actions and prayers bring a change to this world.

    Paola from Melbourne x

  9. Good for you Doreen, I’ ve seen online the vitriol against and it’s sickening coming from “ spiritual” people , the irony is lost on them, little gangs of women encouraging each other to bully slander and spread animosity towards you. I have spoken out against them and told them to stop trolling you , it seems like there are just as many “ trolls” as “ fairies “ lol x

  10. Dear Doreen,
    At first I did not understand why you would close down so much, and now the ah hahs have all clicked in. My dear child, so much pain and suffering, because I too
    have endured much. Bravo to you for the courage to live by your principles and with
    the love and understanding of our Christ, it also refreshes my faith and awareness of
    who we all are as human beings, and I thank you from the bottom of my heart for
    providing me with a pathway, in a time when it has been dark and unfulfilling for me. Love, Kerry. Xxx

  11. You are amazing Doreen! I too was bullied by my own step mother and father and kids at school. I have since prayed and pray for forgiveness done much healing work and now help with big sisters it’s been a real challenge sometimes those voices try to attack and I see my little sister battling too. We shall overcome. I just tell her she is amazing and so pretty inside and out. I love all my books from you!

  12. Doreen I am so, so sorry that this has happened to you. I am praying for your complete healing. Your work has totally changed my life and I’m so grateful. We are all so lucky to have you, our shining Earth Angel! 👼

  13. Great advice Doreen, my 10 y/o nephew has been being made fun of because he is bow legged and it’s heartbreaking. His teacher gave his mother ( my niece) a letter he wrote saying( he wished that he could die ) he is a very sweet and caring young soul and I pray that he can regain self esteem and brush people off that behave like that.
    Thank you so much for posting Doreen ❌⭕️

    May I ask you to pray for this young man as well?

    God Bless you for being a blessing to all of us. Lots of love to you, our earth angel 😇

  14. Dear Doreen,

    I am so sorry to hear about your experiences, and I praise God for giving you the guidance and support and wherewithal to stand up, for yourself and others. May we all find grace, protection and true strength in the only true power there is, and may those who dwell in lower realms finally see the light, and realise that pain is not power, that only love reigns true.

    May you continue to be blessed, dear lady. Thank you for all that you do.

    With love and light, Katrina

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